Deserving time for yourself is not a function of how smart or pretty or thin you are. Deserving time for yourself is not a function of how much you did or didn’t accomplish that day. Deserving time for yourself is a function of the fact that you are alive and deserve to have time for yourself.
There is no such thing as a simple act of compassion or an inconsequential act of service. Everything we do for another person has infinite consequences. Everything action gives rise to a ripple effect, just as a pebble that is tossed into a pond sends out wave after wave, widening and covering more and more space. Everything we do and say matters. period. This is why Buddhists and Hindus, indeed all great spiritual traditions, teach the importance of mindfulness in speech and attention to behavior, because of the limitless, unforeseen effects of our every action and word.